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A Riddle For You

What if …

You are dead.  That’s right.  It’s all over for you.  There is no more more there.  You’ve reached the end.  The heart don’t beat.  The brain waves aren’t waving.  You’re done. Kaput.

And what if …

This is your heaven.

I have two questions for you.

Did you do everything you wanted to do before the Grim Reaper came a-knocking?

… did you stand in the face of evil and say no?  With a ferocity that surprised you?

… did you let fear control you, or did you control your fear?

… did you kiss somebody who made your toes curl and that place in your core quiver?

… did you raise your kids, those little rug rats you had dreams of, to the pedestal you had placed them on?

… did you do something that was meaningful, not to your spouse or your boss or your friends, no, did you do that thing that was meaningful only to you?

… did you help somebody when you could and whisper “pay it forward”?  And then think to yourself that maybe you had just created a ripple?


… did you put aside your prejudices and your biases and your hate and your rage and love for the sake of love?

… did you hug somebody for them and not for you?

… did you achieve your dreams or dream them day after day and never move beyond dreams?  Did you never push the envelope and take those steps to make those dreams your reality?


And my second question to you is this …

If this is your heaven …

… was it worth it?

… were the dramas and traumas you experienced in your life worth where you are now?



21 responses to “A Riddle For You

  1. coastalmom June 2, 2017 at 8:50 pm

    Funny, my facebook post was saying that I wanted to just change my name, start all over and have a fresh start. I love your posts. They make me think. I think right now it is exhausting for me see that glass half full. It is stupid how I let things pull the rug out from under me but I think I am so offended right now that it is hard for me to see the forest before the trees or the trees before the forest. What the hell is that saying anyway and what does it mean? Lol.
    This is a little off subject but for some reason your post/question hit the nail on the head for me feeling so overwhelmed. And I am so overwhelmed by something literally not that big of a deal but…
    I was laid off in November with my hotel’s GM telling me that I could stay and help to see my events (I was an Event Coordinator) to their conclusion or leave that day. I opted to help out. I stayed to the end of the year Saturday 12/31/16. Though, I’d heard that HR fights all unemployment my immediate Supervisor told me that the owners told her that they would not fight mine. My GM wrote me a glowing letter of recommendation. He cried two days before he gave me a letter offering me a very vague job with a lot lower pay and no real description.
    And then on my last day, he arrived 10 minutes before I was to leave with a note requiring me to sign that said I refused the job offer that they offered me. “I said to him… “You know , there was no ‘real’ job offer so I won’t sign it. So this month is my last month of receiving any benefits and they are trying to appeal my eligibility! Which would mean I would have to pay back all the benefits I received with a 30% Penalty. I am so blown away. But more offended because I worked so hard for that company and they are being so shady. In all the years I paid into unemployment, I have never filed for it and there is no question that I was laid off. The thing that they are claiming is that they tried to slip in a bogus job offer at the eleventh hour and stating that I am not eligible because I supposedly refused it. I didn’t refuse the job offer. I refused to say that I refused it! Because I didn’t.
    Okay now to answer your question… lol.
    I have always counted on there being a heaven in the after life. But your question made me think. Because I kind have have made this life be a kind of hell sometimes. I get so focused on the wrongs and filled with guilt for seeing the glass half empty rather than half full.
    Which makes me think….
    What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.
    Thank you for letting me vent!
    I’ve always found you a soft place to land and pretty thought provoking!

    • kingmidget June 2, 2017 at 9:11 pm

      This post was kind of a random thing that has rolled around in my head for some time. Based simply on the introduction. What if I told you you were dead.

      Tonight I decided to ramble with that and try to make a point with the idea. In a couple of ways you have absolutely nailed it. Or at least how I feel about my life.

      First, with the opening lines of your comment. I too struggle with finding the glass half full. There is just so much going wrong with my life, at least from my perspective. It’s hard to retain optimism and a positive attitude and the motivation to do good things.
      And then with your final words, I too have made my life a living hell because of how I allow all of these crappy things taint my ability to see and experience the good and to get over all of that bad.

      And then there’s this. “What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.” I don’t know that I could have said it better.

      And then what describe between the beginning and the end. Some people are just … I want to say evil, but that may overstate it … but they are and how do you overcome that when it affects you so personally.

      I hope that all comes out okay for you. Good luck!

      • coastalmom June 2, 2017 at 9:32 pm

        I love you! SEEEEE pinklightssabre… He GETS me! LOL. How can you not love someone who sees my total rambling vent as hitting the nail on the head? Affirmation is validating!

  2. pinklightsabre June 2, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    Wow, what prompted that?

    • coastalmom June 2, 2017 at 9:02 pm

      I always find King Midget’s view points grounding. I am in the middle of this little drama thing happening to me and these questions he posted made me think on how I get so wrapped up into things I can’t control. His question made me think. Don’t worry about it. He has let me ramble before and then offers his nuggets of wisdom! 😉

    • kingmidget June 2, 2017 at 9:12 pm

      Ah well, would it make sense to you if I said everything and nothing?

      • pinklightsabre June 2, 2017 at 9:12 pm

        Yes, and no.

      • kingmidget June 2, 2017 at 9:17 pm

        I’ve thought for some time about starting something with the opening line or two here. What if I told you … you are dead. And then just going from there. Tonight’s post was just a quick hit with that start. (And there’s a lot of my own reality in the things I fleshed this out with.). It’s an idea I’d like to flesh out a bit more one day. So, on the one hand, it’s a poke at my readers to think, but also a poke at myself … to do something real and meaningful instead of continuing to wallow.

      • pinklightsabre June 2, 2017 at 9:19 pm

        Then do. Good luck, go forth and be brave!

  3. coastalmom June 3, 2017 at 8:34 am

    Your question made me think of one of my favorite songs…
    Just wanted to share because I know what you mean… really. I think that is why I keep reading here… 😉

    • kingmidget June 3, 2017 at 9:16 am

      Thank you for sharing this. I was a big fan of Jewel in her earlier years, but haven’t listened to her much lately. I even went to see her when she was playing a solo acoustic set up at Jackson Rancheria. I really like her music — except when she gets too country. 😉


  4. William C. Paxson June 3, 2017 at 11:06 am

    I intend to answer your questions (This is a riddle?) in my usual shallow manner in a post on Generic Old Man, at some time or other in the near future.

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  6. coastalmom June 4, 2017 at 6:01 am

    I added a link to this question on my last post titled: Right?
    Hope that is okay?

  7. Philip Walter June 4, 2017 at 12:40 pm

    I’m going to ponder on this. The answers are probably a modest no to most of the questions, but in the way that I’ve admired and been inspired by others might mean I’ve done the same for someone. In the end I’d like to be remembered for how I made people feel not for what I might have done.

  8. turnipsforbreakfast June 6, 2017 at 10:28 pm

    I thought about this, and the answer is yes, I’ve done all those things from time to time. And yet I don’t feel that I have the answer to ‘is this life worth living’ or ‘is this heaven deserved’. I feel I’ve done and been a lot of things but one of the things I most regret – without having stopped doing it – is being dishonest. I can’t say all the things that I think, to my partner, because of the repercussions, and so I feel myself living in a state of terrible dishonesty but not feeling able to move from that. Sometimes being ‘nice’ really is quite cruel, and thus I’ve been justly castigated not a few times by people who’ve been badly hurt when I haven’t been open (usually about how ambivalent I am towards them – I pretend more enthusiasm than I feel). So…I guess at this age most of us who think deeply about life are probably thinking through some issues, huh.

    • kingmidget June 7, 2017 at 4:55 am

      I think we all live with that level of “dishonesty.” I know there are very few people in my life, not just my spouse, who I can be completely honest with. The ones I can be honest with are my true friends. There are only a few. The rest are minor friends and acquaintances.

      It’s a shame we can’t be more honest with each other.

      • turnipsforbreakfast June 8, 2017 at 6:00 pm

        It really is a wonderful thing to be able to be completely yourself and honest with someone. I’m not sure there’s anyone I feel that way about…maybe my daughter comes closest. Anyway, we’re lucky if we have a true friend, by that definition.

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