I Should Have Been Kicked Off the Planet About 30 Years Ago
December 17, 2016
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There’s a story out about an Oklahoma University football player who slugged a girl. It happened several years ago. The player pled to a misdemeanor assault charge and was suspended by the football team for a year. Since his suspension was up, he has returned to the team and played the last couple of seasons.
Now the video of the assault has been released and there is uproar. The video is embedded in this article.
When I was in my 20s I had my first real girlfriend. She was a toxic, insecure mess and it took me a long (looooooong) time to break up with her. For the first year of our relationship, when she got upset with me over some perceived slight, she would slap me. In the face. Sometimes over and over again. I never struck back until our first New Year’s Eve together when something set her off. A key ingredient to her attacks was alcohol consumption, although not always.
I finally had it that night. She wouldn’t stop slapping me. In the face. And they weren’t delicate slaps. I slapped her back and told her never again.
She never slapped me again.
To read the article I linked to above and some of the other stuff I’ve read about the incident involving the football player, apparently I was in the wrong. And all hope for me was lost in the instant I decided to strike back. Good to know. Odd thing is that I have never struck another human being since. Never spanked my children either. But we race to condemn this kid who was, yes a kid, probably 17 or 18 years old and demand that he should have been exiled. Watch the video if you haven’t already. He should have walked away. The question is why didn’t she.
[Edited to add: To be absolutely clear — I am not condoning his actions at all, so if you feel like commenting on this, do not accuse me of condoning his actions. I felt horrible for years after I slapped my girlfriend. It bothers me to this day that I sunk to that level.]
Now back to my blogging exile. Talk amongst yourselves.