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The Things not on my Bucket List
September 24, 2012Posted by on
This weekend was a time of first — and the type of first not on my bucket list. These things were small steps in a direction I can’t really describe, but I’ll try.
A dozen years ago, I knew virtually nothing about soccer. In the years since, I haven’t spent a year without coaching one or (in most years) both of my sons in soccer. Always an assistant, never in charge, because of my lack of knowledge. But, all of those years have added up and I think I know a lot about the game now. And, this year is the first since my oldest first ran out on the field to play bunch ball that I am no longer a coach.
Let me say it here now … HALLELUJAH!!!
Let me also be very clear. There is probably nothing that makes me happier as a parent than to see my boys playing the sports they love and doing well at it. (well, except for my youngest’s hugs — that still are offered frequently, even at the age of 14) But, coaching? I don’t need it anymore. I’m more than happy to be a spectator, taking pictures, and cheering them on without obligation to the other kids on the team, their parents, and well, pretty much everything else. I’m not responsible any more!!! Except for my own enjoyment of watching my kids play and have fun doing it.
So, what am I doing now? What did I do for the first time this week? Referee soccer games … for real, cash money. I referee’d two U9 games (for the uninitiated, that means 8-year-olds) yesterday. It’s somewhat nervewracking, but, at the same time, an interesting and different way to experience the game. The best thing about that age is how much fun the kids are having and how few issues they are — parents and coaches relatively under control and kids who are just so cute while they’re playing. The goalie who held up her hand and smiled every time she made a save. The little girl who got knocked down and was crying incredible tears, but refused to come out of the game. The neverending effort and drive to play this game they don’t quite understand yet.
I referee’d soccer for the first time. I hope there are many more such games in the future … even if there are times when it’s not quite as enjoyable.
And, today, I played bocce ball. What an incredible, almost zen-like experience. I plan on joining the East Sac Bocce Ball Club so I can get access to the bocce ball courts and practice. I can see myself playing on my own, or with a friend, and just enjoying the peacefulness of the sport.
Just thought of another new thing — a couple of weeks ago — yoga. Yoga and bocce ball have things in common. There’s this calmness to them that, I think, is critical to my moving forward.
Congrats on referring. And picking up bocce ball and perhaps yoga. I think you’ll really enjoy all of these. And you sound happy.
Yes …. working on that last part. 🙂
I meant “referreeing” not referring.